Help! I feel like I would date anyone to avoid being alone.
I havent had a boyfriend in a while and ive been feeling really desperate. So ive
been flirting with all kinds of guys. I even told one of my friends that i would
date anyone so i wouldnt have to be alone. What is wrong with me!? And what should i
do?
It sounds like you’ve been feeling pretty lonely lately and really wanting to start dating someone. First of all, it’s really NORMAL to feel this way (most of us yearn for someone to date who cares about us). It sounds like telling your friend that you would date anyone in order to avoid being alone was tough for you. What makes that worry you? I wonder if there is a possibility that being in this frame of mind might lead to choosing a dating partner who is not right for you or even abusive. If you want to check out healthy behaviors and attitudes to look for in a boyfriend, check out the relationship spectrum (under “respect” on this website). You can also log on to our chatroom if you would like to speak to a trained teen counselor more about this.
Stay strong and all the best.
I FEEL THE SAME WAY, BUT I HAVE LEARNED THAT IF I CANNOT LOVE MYSELF AS AN INDIVIDUAL THEN I AM IN NO POSTITION TO LOVE ANYONE ELSE IN ANYWAY.. SO THINK ABOUT IT LIKE THAT. YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE U CAN LOVE SOMEONE ELSE…
I used to get moments like this, and I ended up in a few bad relationships because of it! It really isn’t fun to be with someone you don’t really like, because you don’t see much of a reason to spend time with them, and you often want to find someone else. The best way to get round this is to remain single and become friendly with as many people as possible. You could end up liking someone you already know, or you meet someone through one of your new friends!
I know exactly what you feel like. I’m going through that right now! I have been out with 2 guys in the past two months and resulted in dunping them because i realised i didnt actualy like them. Then i actualy liked a guy but he didnt like me and i was hurt so badly, but thats not the point. You should just take it easy for a while, try to focus on something else. Eventulay your guy will come around, well thats what i’m hoping with me. It will all be ok in the end, and if its not ok its not the end (:
Stay happy x