Feeling pressured to have sex
O,k I love my baby. but sometimes i here rumors and people coming up to me saying
he’s cheating on me, that he kissed another girl. When i ask him he says NO. I want
to believe him but sometimes i cant because he has gone out with so many girls, i
dont want to lose him he’s everything to me. When we talk on the phone, and its late
he asked me these questions, ya know (sex). over the phone. I get so nerves i dont
know what to say, i love him and im scared that if i don’t he brake up with me. I
dont know what to do. I want him to be my First but im scared. Sometimes i just want
to cry cause what i hear, i dont know what to believe. HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!
It sounds like you’re having a tough time right now with this situation and feeling very scared and confused. First of all, I think that you are very courageous for contacting someone about the pressure that you feel
and some of the uncertainties that you have about your boyfriend. It is important that you know that you should never be forced to do anything that you are not comfortable with. When I say “force”, I am also talking about the kind of pressure that makes you feel as though your relationship will be in jeopardy unless you have sex. I encourage you to check out the following link on our
website: http://www.teenrelationships.org/respect/
It talks about healthy and unhealthy relationships and it might help you to evaluate your own relationship and figure out how you want to deal with this situation. Also, through this website, we offer an online chatroom especially
for teens that runs from 5pm-7pm (Pacific time) on Mondays,
Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. To log on, go to the
following link: http://www.teenrelationships.org/chatroom/
The chatroom counselors are specially trained teen volunteers who are there to offer support and help. They also might be able to help you to decide how you want to deal with the situation of being unsure whether your boyfriend has cheated and feeling pressured to have sex with
him. You have taken a huge first
step by contacting us and I think it says that you have
a lot of strength and courage.
Stay strong.
that seemed like the same wit me. i would hear my sister and my brother telling me what my boyfriend did or w/e. the first thing i did was talk to my boyfriend. sometims there are signs for when their actions are a little fuzzy and unclear and ur n not to sure whether to trust them or not. i had the same fear that my boy would break up wit me over sex. but we talked about it and he realized that sex isnt everything.
basic thing: TALK IT OUT
nothing will come out of no communication
good luck =]
he keeps makin me do things and i like it but at the same time i dont what should i do.. i think i am raping him
Hi Chelsea,
I am a bit confused by your post. The first part gives me the impression that you are feeling pressured to do sexual things that you are not comfortable with and the second part makes it sound like you are doing sexual things with someone without having his consent. Could you please clarify this? This way, we’ll be able to offer support and ideas about whatever your concern is.
Remember that you can always get support through the chatroom on this site. You can request a private chat and talk with one of our specially trained teen counselors on Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays from 5-7pm (Pacific time). The teen counselors will listen to your concerns and help you to find solutions to your relationship issues or help in coping with them.
Well my situation is my boyfriend really cares about me and all but he wants to take our relationship to the next level. I told him that I felt more comfortable if we waited. At first he was alright about it but now he still wants to have sex. Then he wants to get engaged to me so that I would feel more comfortable about the situation. I’ll be engaged and underage.I feel so pressured and I just don’t know what to do.
Nevermind!!!!!! Me and my boyfriend talked about the situation and we’re okay now. I’m okay now!! Thanx!!!
Hey,, It’s okay. Stay strong. You need to let him know that if you don’t want to have sex. Then you don’t have to. If all he wants from you is sex, then maybe it’s not love. But just talk through it.
Good luck :]