Is it abuse?
My boyfriend recently started accusing me of cheating on him every time I am late calling him. Like, last night when I was hanging out with my friends, I rushed home to call my boyfriend. I said I’d call him at 7 p.m. and I called him at 7:03, and when he picked up, he totally lost it and started yelling at me, saying that I was probably messing around with some other guy. Why is he acting like this?
We’re concerned that your boyfriend’s behavior is an early warning sign of relationship abuse. He seems like he is controlling your social life because he doesn’t trust you to just hang out with your friends. We encourage you to talk to someone you trust about your situation, or come into our chat room on Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday from 5-7 p.m. to speak to a teen counselor.
Your boyfriend sounds like he has very serious insecurity issues, which means that he is the problem, not you. No one deserves abuse of any kind, but you have to know for yourself that you deserve better.
In my opinion your boyfriend is far to posessive. You don’t have to put up with that, you have a life of your own and he should respect that. Try talking to him about it, you never know he might listen!
I personally feel because I just went thru this that this that there is miscommunication and he also feels that he might loose you and that you may be loosin interest in him
your boyfriend needs to think about how he is treating you. if he does it again talk to someone and see what happens. hey i’m just another teen online but mabey you should ask him to start calling you. he might agree you never know!
Wow, he sounds very very insecure and pathetic. You need to talk to him about how you feel, trying not to get angry while explaining your feelings. If he doesn’t listen, or doesn’t smarten up, you need to leave the relationship because you can do so much better than him.
your boyf is a bit like mine used to be, i threatened to leave because i was so controlling. Its best if you sort out the begingin of the problem, maybe he is scared to lose you!
You should call at the time you said you would call, but if you don’t give him a specific time, say something like, ‘anytime after 7pm’. He seems to think that he can regulate your time. What was he doing during this time and does he get upset when you ask him where he was? This guy wants to controll you. Isn’t that just a little too much , for him to expect you to keep on his schedule? too much wanted…too needy, dump him.
I hate my Dad. I think he is the abuser but I don’t know. I want to live with my mom but he won’t let me. We filed 1.5 years ago and he is still saying no. I am sick of his yelling at me.
i dont have that same problem but i still know how you feel. i think he just really likes you, but u may want to talk w/ him about it & if he keeps doing i sugest you see other people
If your boyfriend is doing this, it must mean that he cares a lot about you. Also, he may have had a past relationship where his partner was cheating on him. If he doesn’t trust you, then he is not worth your time.
yo! thats wack! tell him to back offs! he cant be doin dat to his babyy girl is he loves hers. tell him dat a’int right and make him see it a’int
what is realationships all about
ok i really think u should break up with this guy its like hes trying to control ur life dont let him do that and wat if u call him 3 min. late big deal ! thats stupid ! or u could just try talking to him about it and tell him how u feel.
He seems insecure. I believe he is afraid of losing you and he uses that kind of act to cover it up. If not he is probably the obsessed- posessive type of guy who wants to know where, why, who, when and etc. If he continues to keep up, I think you should let him go. If talking to him about the issue doesn’t seem to work then I guess the only thing you can do is walk away.
you need to get rid of him cause he just got problems
well to me your boyfriend sounds like he is an ass no afince
Yo, not chill! I had a boyfriend EXACTLY like that, take it from my expiriance, its time to exchange him girl!
These are “red flags” that this relationship is unhealthy. Abusers need to have power and control in a relationship and often the level of abuse escalates from isolation,not letting you hang out with your friends, to emotinal abuse,putting you down and making you feel like no one else could love you to pysical abuse. These red flags can help you relaize that this relatinship is unhealthy and that you need to get out. Unfourtunatley people often believe they can change thier abuser and make excuses for their behaviour. Abuse is a learnt behaviour and no one can make you change, you have to want to change yourself.
i think your boyfriend is just serious about your relationship.maybe his just protecting your relationship not to abuse you or something.if you love your boyfriend confront him and ask him to change that type of attitude.you know dear, if he really loves you he will understand you so go for it!