What do I do when my ex hates the new person that I like?
Okay, so I was dating this guy for some time now, and he gets really mad when I tell
him that I don’t want to have sex. He threatend to leave me if I don’t. And
sometimes I’d rather not be heartbroken, so I do it. Well, he left me a few days ago
and yes i’m heartbroken but he still calls me and tries to have sex. I’m starting to
like someone that he doesn’t like very much, well, more like he hates him, what
should I do?
Hi,
It sounds like you’re feeling very sad and confused right now. Breakups are never easy things to go through and it can’t help when your ex keeps calling you to request sex afterwards. From what you describe, it sounds like your ex pressured you into having sex with threats of leaving and that you may have had sex when you weren’t ready. Using this type of threatening to control you is not fair to you and can be considered abusive. If you would like to read more about this, check out the links “respect” and “abuse?” on this website.
It also sounds like even though you are no longer with your ex, he tries to control your choice in new dating partners. I wonder how you feel about this. I’m also wondering about what ways of handling this situation you have thought of so far. Do you have friends that you can talk about this with and get support from? If you would like to talk with one of our trained teen counselors more about this, you can log onto our chatroom on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays from 5-7pm (Pacific time). They will be able to explore your current situation with you and help you to decide how you want to handle it.
Stay strong.
Hun, the most you can do is leave the broke a@@ but stay strong and things will work out, give that guy a chance, you’ll see.
I tried to tell him that i dont want it, and now that i’m dating this guy, he tries even more. I guess he’s coming down for the summer and he is gonna wanna try to have sex, I do feel like im getting pressured into having sex with him!!! And i am very scared of him at the present time and moment, so it’s still hard
I totally understand how you feel. i used to be in a similar realationship. I think you should stop talking to your ex. He oviously doesn’t care about you enough if he made you feel like you had to sleep with him. I know it hurts right now but you have to be strong. You shouldn’t let your ex get in the way of a new relationship. It’ll just make things worse and he’ll think he has you wrapped around his finger. Give this new guy a chance. Who cares if your ex hates him. You should do what YOU want and what makes YOU happy.
Well if youve broken up with this other guy its not his buisness anymore yep you might be heartbroken but move on he cant force you into havin sex if hes doing that am sorry to tell you but he dont really love you,,Someone who loved you would wait untill you wanted to do it..
JUST MOVE ON FORGET ABOUT THAT GUY KEEP YOUR LIFE GOING!
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