What’s going on?? I haven’t been myself since we broke up.
my boyfriend and i broke up with each other in september, and i still, after 8
months, haven’t gotten over him.
the reason for our separation is totally ridiculous, and i remeber half of it.
my parents didnt want me dating, his friends didnt want him dating me, we were too
scared and immature to handle a relationship. but now, he’s released himself from
his friends, and my parents are at peace about me dating, but i just dont know how
to tell him that i still feel alot of [i dont know if i should say love] strong
feelings towards him. and im moving in about two months, so it wont even matter.
and i know it sounds neive, seeing as its been used in a shallow manor before by
girls just my age, but i know that im in love with him. after we broke up, i havent
been the same. i sleep either all the time or not at all, my weight is bouncing up
and down the scale, i have huge bags under my eyes now [which is not the most
attractive thing], and ive lost my ever so fond good sense of humor, or at least
carrying on a good conversation for that matter. ive met alot of guys after him, but
they just dont seem to ammount. i just dont feel the same, or better around them.
i havent sang in a few months, which is amazing for me, because singing used to
be like eating , [a usual thing].
before our relationship, we were good friends for a year. now that we’ve crossed the
line between couple and friends, we havent been able to go back.
the timing of our relationship was just so wrong, and al l i want to do is start
over. i cant even do that now! its not like i havent tried getting over him, but
i cant deny what i know is real.
i only hope that things will unfold rightfully, but id also love to know if i
could help things to unfold rightfully in any way.
sorry this was so long, hope you can get back to me with help soon.
First of all, I just want to acknowledge how frustrating it can be when you love someone or are in love with someone and the adults in your life tell you that it can’t be “real” love or that you are being naive. It’s hard enough figuring out all of the relationship stuff without having that extra stress.
It sounds like since you went through this break-up, you have been struggling with sleeping, eating and not enjoying the things that you used to like singing. Regardless of what happens with this guy, I think that it’s really important to get these parts of your life back on track. Have you thought about talking with someone you trust about this stuff? What you describe could be mild depression and talking with someone that you trust could be the first step to getting back on track. Sometimes when we go through something like this, it can mess with our thinking and we can start to think that we’ll NEVER meet a guy like that or NEVER feel like singing again or NEVER have a sense of humor again. This kind of thinking can be really hard on us and again, I strongly suggest that you talk to someone about it. This could be a parent, your family doctor, school counselor, a teacher or any other adult that you trust. Once you start to regain regular sleeping and eating patterns and get back into the things that you used to enjoy, then you’ll probably be in a better position to figure out how you want to manage the situation with your ex.
Good luck!
That’s a hard situation.
hey girl. I totally understand when parents first think that you two are too immature to be together but you need to remind them that you need to make you own choices and decisions. Its your relationship, not theirs. But im glad they understand now. Honestly, since i hang around guys twenty four seven (no joke) from their point of view you NEED to tell him. I mean, what if he felt the same way and he was just scared that you didn’t feel that way and then he didnt find out untill you left? It would BREAK HIS HEART!!! so tell him. and if he doesn’t like you back, so what? people fallin in love with someone who doesn’t love them back every day (trust me, it happens ALOT!) but there are so many guys out there waiting for a chance with you!!!
Just remeber, taking a chance to tell him will show him that you really love him.
good luck!!!
-hugs kisses_
This is definitely a difficult choice, but really look within yourself and the answers will come . . .