General relationship issues
I feel like my girlfriend doesn’t love me as much as I love her – I’d do anything for her. Like, I’ll go visit her at work and bring her gifts, and when I hang out with my buddies and she calls, I’ll drop everything to see her. She doesn’t do the same for me, because she’s more realistic about the relationship I guess, but I want her to be more idealistic and romantic like me. I feel sad and disappointed. What should I do?
I can see why you would feel sad and disappointed. Maybe it’s a good idea to talk to her about how you feel. You could tell her that you feel like you’re giving more in the relationship, and have a conversation about what you both can do to make your relationship feel more equal. One way to look at your current situation is that you balance each other out – you are more idealistic about love, and she is more grounded in reality. Sometimes it can be a problem if two people are too idealistic about a relationship, because they will both have unrealistic expectations of each other.
Tell her how you feel!
she probably does love u she just has a diffrent way of showing it………dont worry to much or stress yourself out
well maybe you should hang back a little and see what happens. if she tells u to come see her go a little later insted of rushing over on her damand. and another dont keep telling her the same thing over and over again. and if your the type of person who likes to ask questions dont ask so many. when she wants to show you love she will just dont crowd her space.
i would sit down with her and talk about it if she’s not being a good girlfriend toward you then you should tell that and she should spend more time with you and she should call you too
Love is such a funny thing. Some people feel it young, some old, and some never. I believe that love is mystical, magical and romantic.
It sounds like your partner is either denying her deeper feelings toward you, or simply doesn’t feel the same as you do. Give her a little time to come on board. If she doesn’t, look elsewhere. Sometimes a break up is the reality check that is needed.
take her to dinner and while your there you should tell her how you feel if she does not like then dump her and find a girl that is more like you, understands you, and comes from your point of view. GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING!!!!
I have the same issue with my boyfriend, but I am on the other side. It’s not because I don’t have strong feelings for him, but I feel that we’re too young to understand true love. I explained my feelings to him and that helped the situation. I struggle with showing my feelings so maybe that’s the case in your situation too. I think the best thing you can do is sit down and explain to her how you feel and let her have her say. Maybe when she explains her side you guys will be able to work things out.
RELAX!!!! hang back listen to your favorite music and then go to a quiet place and just talk. if you guys listen to each others feelings you will be able to tell if everything is going okay or not.
The best thing to do about this situation, is to sit down with her and talk about it. Don’t express anger, or raise your voice, though. Communicate to her the fact that you love her, she’s a very sweet girl, and you hope she feels the same way about you. Let her know that the way she’s acting makes you feel lonely and hurt at times, and try to work out a solution for this. Ask her how she feels about everything, and if she’s feeling alright lately. Remember, there is no better way to work out a problem than to talk about it.
I say you guys should sit down and talk about wat you guys want in this realtionship so it could work better nd express yourselfs she probably does like you but her own way not every body finds it easy to express them selves ….give it a try!
She is not ready to committ as you are, perhaps in time whe will grow to have the same feelings as you, just hoping she doesnt use relationshipover.com to communicate with you.Good luck
You can’t have everything. Just keep showing that you love her and maybe in time she will in turn show her love. She might be not used in showing her love but she will. Just give her time and make her feel the you love her very much. Goodluck on your relationship!
i just started going out with boy i like it will be a month aug30 and i really never had a boyfriend bf cuz im a christian but im a shy gurl i dt even kiss him that much in front of nody only once kinda crazy i dt kno i think he dt wnt this 2 be but wen i ask him he says he do how do i kno 4 sure he want 2 be wit me p.s b4 he told my sis my 2 shy and quited iam shy abut u can kinda see why they my parents is strick so i have 2 hide this from them in im 18 ryears old
i think it is a good idea to talk to her about whats going on….and i also agree that if you are both all romantic that if something were to happen that it would be harder to deal with it….
Umm, ya i had the same problem with my boyfriend and we both decided that it was time to end it cause we just weren’t getting along… Do wat you please but if you talk to her and if she doesn’t understand say well then i think we should go our diffrent ways maybe her with out you for a while will make her relize that she is really loseing something…
My Ex-Boyfriend Broke Up Wit Me Because He Says He Has A Problem Wit Relationships, And I Love Him So Much, And Want Him To See That Im Here For Him N To Be With Him…….So How Should I Resolve This Problem So We Can Get Back Together N Be A Happy Couple Once Again
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well your gurl obviously cares for you if she didnt she wouldnt be with you i think you should confront her and tell her whats on your mind ive been the same way she is and once me and my boyfriend talked about it i started to think maybe he is the one just let her know how you feel
BEST OF LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU SHOULD TALK TO HER AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL ITS NOT GOOD TO HOLS ALL THAT INSIDE YOU BECAUSE ITS NOT HEALTHY FOR YOU NEITHER HER
Im Sure she loves you. Its just some of us girls have a different way of showing it. Just tell her how u feel
i loved a girl named apoorva.but the mater is that she also love me but both of us had a fear that because of this our friendship should not been breaken so i did not tell her my felling or she did not tell her feeling so what can i do please can any girls say my how to contnue my love
i’m around the age of 15/16ish, and so is my current bf, we’ve been going out for a good 5 months now, and i love him to death…we tlak about getting married (seriously and jokingly). The things is, he’s about my 5th bf and i’m his first gf. I have full intentions of marrying him someday. But! i’m scared that he’s soo attached to me…that like if we dont end up together, it’ll hurt him for the rest of his life. (Yes, this situation happened to me before..my first bf). How should i handle this? THANKS!!
it sounds like she’s taking you for granted a little. this isn’t to say that she doesn’t love you or that she isn’t happy in the relationship, but if you do these nice gestures all the time, they won’t seem as special anymore. DON’T dump her or anything just back off being so amazing for a while and then just tell her that sometimes you feel a little like your feelings arent being reciprocated-is it because she feels like your feelings are too strong for where you guys are or does she just have a different way of showing love than you that you haven’t understood yet? make it so it’s not her fault and it will be so much less awkward and you won’t have her up at night worrying she’s messing you around.
She does love you. she has a different way of showing it. She might just feel a little bit … well… i dunoo really i think that you should just sit down and speak to her. Ask her how she feels and maybe not see her everyday just to give her presents, she probably wants a bit of space.
You both might not understand the true meaning of love just yet give it some time and maybe you will.
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Talk to her and ask her to tell you how she feels about you ask her to pour her heart out and to do it once in a while it will make u feel special that way u wont worry bout other things
dump the bitch!! call me……xxx
TALK TO HER!!!
i am having the same problem with my boyfriend but im the way your girlfriend is and it not that i don’t love him but we are so young to be planing our lives together i think that if she love you she might not realize how much she does.so i would just back off of her a little bit and see wut happens and if nothing does then i think you should probably breakup with her and let her see how much you mean to her and if she loves you as much as you love her then she will probably want to get back together.
talk to her about it,
or write her a note.
why do i do if there another chick trying to steal my boyfriend?
i fink that if she likes you the way u like her then she wil say it in her own way and in her own time… dont let er be pressured til feel loved let her feel it in time…
If you love your girlfriend but she doesn’t feel the same way, you shouldn’t waste your time on her. Someday you will find someone who truly cares for you, and that is the best you could possibley get! If you really aren’t ready to part with her, tell her how you feel. Good Luck!!!!
Well I think your girlfriend is just trying to play it safe right now. I think she does love you and doesn’t want to rush into the relationship to quickly. I also think that comunication is the key in this situation.
hey man she has a lot feelings for you. just start talking to her about it and eventually you will work it out. i didn’t do that with mine and now i’m by myself. so don’tbe afraid to talk to her about…she should understand.
well i am shy but i really don’t wanna be shy so what can i do
i just star dating this guy from in the summer. He is not the type of person i would normally go for but he has a great personality. We have been dating for 3 months now but suddenly this guy i know from a long time turn back good friends so he ask me to be his girlfriend but i couldnt tell him no. Couples weeks later someone i liked for a long long time ask me to be his girl and i could not tell him no. Me and ma first boyfriend dont seem as close as we use to be and he is a bit controlling always trying to tell me what to do. But the other 2 i know from a long time treats me great. I was planning to see who respect me moe and would date him and dump the others. Please tll me if i am doing the right thing. i dont want to hurt any of there feelings.
i feel yo pain and Is understands. dont chu worry nuthin about dat girl im sure she likes u too alots babes its a’ight mamaa
your whipped and stop. how old are you anyway? if your in high school then you should know deep down that this relationship is not going to last. she knows how your going to react when she calls and you shouldnt. test her and you will find out who she really is!!!!
i have the same problem i love this girl a lot but she hates me and i cant stop loving her or thinking about her, wat can i do?
Love is such a funny thing. Some people feel it young, some old, and some never. I believe that love is mystical, magical and romantic.
talk to her and see what she saids and if it something you do not want to hear than work it out.
i broke up with my boyfriend but i think i want him back
my boyfriend always acuses me of makin out with this guy named nick n he said he saw me with his own eyes i say well how did u c me if i didnt do it and he broke up with me then like 30 min. or hour later he asked me back out
i dont know wut 2 do
I feel this way at times, but it isn’t the exact situation. We both do a lot for each other, but I’ll think too much and wonder if I love him more than he loves me, but I’m just being silly. We both do anything for each other whenever we can. She does love you, I’m sure. She just has different ways of going about it all. But the most simple thing to do, is talk to her and work things out.
i would chill out and see if she sees what shes turning down and if that dosent work try to talk to her
i say try talking to her tell her how u feel
and i know how u feel my boyfriend does the same
The way you feel about your girlfriend is the way I feel about my boyfriend, wow. Absolutly precise. It’s too bad we feel this way. But I’m glad there’s someone else feeling this.
i like this boy a lot but he dosen`t know it yet i just don`t know what to do we known each other for almost 2 years but i don`t wanna mess up our friendship wat should i do
i have the same problem with my boyfriend . i will drop everything hhat im bussy with and go to him and i will do every thing for him. i buy him things and do romantic things for him.
i just feel he is not putting in every thing to us.after dating 7 months i found out that about 2 months ago he slept with he’s ex girlfriend but he’s excoase was he was drunk and didnt know what he was doing i forgave him he told me with out me he wount be anything. i truely love him but im scard im a verjen and i dont want to lose my verjen but he wants sex. he says its not about sex its about showing hes love to me? what must i do ? he also wants to spend time with hes friend but hardly spends time with me
I think you have not yet expressed yous views on her in such a way that she could understand how much you love her.
i know how you feel accept its the other way around with me. me and my boyfriend broke up because he was giving too much and i wasn’t givng enough. but the weird thing is, i’m the one that broke up with him. i did it because i didn’t want to end up hurting him. he was completely devoted to me and i thought i was too, but i didn’t realize that i did untill it was too late. i regret what i did sooo much and i miss him, but maybe she’ll come around and i wish ya’ll the best. i hope it works out!
tell her how you feel.
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well you should maybe stay away from here for a while..if she really loved you then she would come back..if she dont get over it a move on
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you just need to sit down and have a heart to heart and tell her how you fell and see if she fills the same way and see how it goes from there. I mean all you can do is hope for the best.
She may have a lot of things going on, so just let things calm down and then talk to her about it…
ok will yea just go ask her waz goin on and every thang u kno caues i feel the same way u kno
I am in a similar situation..well I guess I was until my boyfriend and I spoke about it. The way you described your problem definitely reminds me of my boyfriend. He comes to see me almost every day, picks me up from school and takes me home. He buys me things when he feels he needs to or just when he wants to show his love. He does so many things and I don’t seem to do them back. Well, we spoke about it. He confronted me about it. It’s not about expectations. My boyfriend knows I love him so much, but sometimes I don’t do the things he does. However, that doesn’t mean I don’t love him as much as he loves me. Maybe she doesn’t feel she needs to do the things you do to prove she loves you. And it seems as if since you give her things and do your best, you’re ‘ expecting’ her to give back… maybe you have expectations and she can’t or doesn’t feel as comfortable or open reaching them. Or maybe it’s not known to her. If you haven’t spoke to her about it. I suggest that you do. That’s what we have communication for. We can’t read minds and sometimes we let things pass us by without paying attention to clues or signs. Let her know and let her know it bothers you, if it actually does. Hopefully she’ll listen and make sure you explain yourself clearly..maybe give her examples to express the problem better. In time, because you must not rush, she’ll open up if she’s willing to. It’s not really about expectations..not all the time. Ask her why is it that she doesn’t express her love like you do..maybe you’ll find the solution to your problem then. Good luck!!
i think that the best thing to do is to talk to her about and see how she feels about the situation. hope this helps:)
I Think You Should break Up With Her
She Doesnt
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my boyfriend and i do the same thing. its ok. sometimes she might want a little space or something. ask her if she likes all the attention.
maybe she doesnt understand love yet or maybe she not comfortable around you but she maybe does really like you, if i was in your situation i would wait till she is alone then tell him/her how i feel about it
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I think that you should talk to her and tell her how you feel,and ask her if she feels the same way too!If she doesn’t feel the same way,i think you would have to find someone that well love like you should be LOVED!!!
My boyfriend and I argue alot. Like we dont ever get in hugh fight but we argue about little stuff. We are always trying to figure out why we argue but we never come up with anything. We thought about breaking up for a little while to see if that would work but i cant stand not being with him I love him so much. what should I do?
so I have a issue with my X boyfriend, he seems to fight alot and thinks i have been seeing other people when he is the one that dumped me. i think i should just sit down and talk to him about it and see that me and him have an under standing
sometimes i feel the same about my relationship, but im the girl and sometimes i feel like there is no way he could feel about me how i feel about him, but i know that he does, sometimes you have to look at the littler things and realize those are what counts realize they do care for you as much as you care for them but they show it thru different little ways.
i think that you should tell her how you feel and not hold back being caring . also when your with your buddies invite her to come with you guys to where ever and show her how you feel any where you are at …. no matter what.
Ok, so last year my boyfriend dumped me for some other girl. And then a few months later we started going back out and he was telling me “I wish i never did that,” “It was a huge mistake, i only love you,” but I cant seem to forgive him and its been almost a year later. Im always paraniod that hes talking to other girls or a girl is over there. I just dont know how to beat this.
what do you do when your ex boyfriend like your friend
and she like him to but i am scared to say i still have feels for him
In all relationships (except certain ones where there are injuries or faults or something) WE ALL HAVE TO COMMUNICATE (meaning two people) - there, it was bluntly said…(this is for most relationship problems)
can someone help? i broke up with this guy but… i still kinda… uh… like him! but the day after i broke up with him one of my kinda friends asked him out…. and he said yes!!! just cause he wanted a girlfriend!!!!!! then he claimed he was going out with a fifteen year old from kentucky!!!! then he started going out with my kinda friend AGAIN!!!!!!!! :-9
Well me and my boyfriend are deeply in love. We love each others company and everything. Then he wants to go to the next level with umm you know and I wanted to wait and he understood that. Now he wants to get engaged. I don’t know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I care about him a lot and I’m starting to feel that it’s now love instead of just like. We never say we love each other and I want to tell him I do, but I’m afraid that he might not feel the same way. I don’t know what I should do.
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I still love my ex. We went out for 6 mounths last year and we loved each other but she stoped liking me and wanted to break up. its been a year and for the two and a half months we’ve been talking everyday. yesterday i opend my phone and she left me three messegaes. I still love her but she doesnt know that. how can I get her to love me again, and since she has been talking to me for hours everyday does it mean she may still like me?
me and my gf loved each other then sudddenly her marriage is fixed ,but we not seperated wit each other our love goes on and on .but when she tells her parents about me they got angry on her and sayz tat dont talk about him ever but we manage to broke her marriage and she is realaxed now.we hav lots of fight in between tat.now she wants to break wit me but i luv her and she is saying tat she doesnt love me now ,she is happy wit her parents and now she never go against of her parents. i luv her a lot and never wanna loose her .plz giv some suggestionss……….thankz
i like a boy and its hard becase every one in my school i know dont really like me … and if we do every date people would tell him to dump me just like my last bf … all my friends say he likes you hes the good guy he wont do that but iv’e been hurt so much i dont know what to believe
signed confused
please dont think she dosent love you,
my boyfriend tells me the exact same thing sometimes and i never really understood how he felt until now.
maybe i need to start just showing him how much i love him in different ways, its just that sometimes its harder for me to show my emotions to anyone.. not just him.. and i wish i could tell him how much i lvoe him and care for him its just hard. thank you ! ( i know she loves u just as much as u love her !! dont worry ! )
I know how you feel cause I’m the same way with my boyfriend I give him a lot of love and I drop everything just for him but he doesn’t do the same sometimes but not all the time like I do….. But you should talk to her and tell her how you feel about it and some people are right don’t get stressed out cause the more you thinking about the more you could loose her so have some time and talk to her
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Maybe she doesnt feel the same about you like they way you feel about her, you should just do some searching and find a girl that will feel the same way towards you because you dont need a girl hanging around like that.; but also tell her how you feel and then she could change her ways, because showing and telling how you feel inside will let the girl know that you truly care about her and want to be with her.
my boyfriend is too protective over me, we’ve been going out for 14 months now and say i hug another boy goodbye he’ll start on them and then maybe have a go at me. And he’s always showing off how strong he is, he’s probably the strongest and most muscular in my year and he expects me to be all over him but i’m not. i think he has anger issues because he’s always getting into fights and shouting at everyone, then takes it out on me later. i hate it and i dont know how to tell him how i feel
im 14 and my boyfriend is 16…
we had a good relationship only for 15 or 20 days afrter that he asked for a breakup.he says i don’t trust him,we were in the same tutuoin centre and once when we met he was very romantic that day so he was kissing me on my cheeks and was hugging me tight i dint had any problems in he kissing or hugging me it was just that i was a bit uncomfortable if he ould kiss my lips and he did the same.i told him to stop that and the next day he ased for a breakup.he told me that i m a very kiddish kind of girl i told him i will change and stuff i pleaded him a lot cause i loved him like anything,that day i cried a lot.i just cant let him goand now its been 3 or 4 months dat he doe’snt talk to me as he used to .we hardly say i love you,he tries to make me jealous and i keep on asking him to meet but he makes excuses to meet and to talk to.he shows as if he is really very busy and all the girls are after him.he makes me cry alot but i caant just let him go.i had also cut my hand and i wrote his name…pls help me before anything else happens i will soon kill myself…pls tell me what to do…pls.waiting….
Hi broken,
I’m really glad that you chose to post here and I want you to know that we are here to help. It sounds like you are having a really tough time right now and that it has become so hard for you that you have thought about killing yourself. I am wondering if you have been thinking about when or how you might do this? Have you told anyone about cutting your hand and about your thoughts of suicide? I am concerned about your safety broken and am wondering if you would feel comfortable talking to an adult that you trust (like a teacher or counselor at school or a parent/relative). You’re dealing with a lot right now and it’s really important that you don’t isolate yourself. If there’s no adult that you trust right now, you can call the hotline at the following number- 1-800-784-2433. It is staffed by trained volunteers who know how to listen without judging your situation. I think that it takes a lot of strength to post on this forum and I think that it shows that you have the strength to reach out and get some support. Please let us know if you are able to do this.
Thanks and stay strong.
I am in the exact same situation except its the other way around. I feel the way u feel. I took the easy way out and broke up but now I’m regreting it so I have to sit down and talk it out. Face to face with no interruptions
thank u so much admin…
well lisen now that yesterday itself this fellow asked for a breakup again….
look i dont have the courage to talk to such counselors and i belong to a very conservative family so i cant even go to any relative or any adult…
can i plz have your id if you have an account on yahoothen could i pls chat from that because the problem is that here i can’t tell you everything im afraid if anyone who knos me finds me here on the smae site..so….if u have it then pls tell me its urgent.dont u take me in other sense im just asking for help..
only my 2 or 3 friends of mine knows that ive cut ma hand..
and im thinking about a suicide….
waiting pls do reply.and if possible give me your yahoo id.
im sorry for so many mis typings actually ive some problem in my laptop…
pardon me…
Hi Broken,
Thanks for clarifying your situation and it sounds like you don’t feel like you have much support around you right now. If you would like to get support in a more private way, you can email us through this website. (go to “ask a teen” and submit your question). THis goes to our confidential email inbox and we will respond back to your email. If you would like to chat with someone live (and of course anonymously), our trained teen counselors are in the chatroom Mon, Tues, Wed from 5-7pm (Pacific time). Enter the chatroom off of this website and then request a private chat right away so that no one else will see your conversation. Good luck broken and please let us know if you need anything else.
CORA Counselor
well u ppl are helping me out so much thats great..
thanks actually why don’t u simply tell me what to do of this guy whom i love so much…….
just tell me fast cause m gonna meet him and wanna try ma best out to save the relation..
so pls…
comeon now i really need help..
why don’t you all reply..???damid…!!!!
u dont understnad my position…
Hi Broken,
I want to make sure that you receive the support that you are seeking right now and I don’t think that our forum is the right place to continue this conversation. If you submit an email through our site or log onto the chatroom on Mon, Tues, or Wed, we will be able to offer you more support around this tough situation that you’re dealing with.
Hope this helps,
CORA Counselor